We’re students of life. We sometimes do things we don’t want to do because we want to be nice or because we’re afraid of hurting someone’s feelings or because we have a high tolerance for emotional pain and think, “Oh, it won’t be so bad.”
But everything we do out of guilt turns into a future resentment. Either on our part or on the other person’s.
One of my daughters was invited to a wedding and she told one of my sons, “I don’t want to go to the wedding.”
“So, don’t go,” was my son’s answer.
But then the guilt set in. “The bride really wants me to come…” (Don’t we all know that brides are in a total blur about who’s even at the wedding!)
We have a hard time saying no. But that shouldn’t stop us. Let’s pretend we’re the kind of people who don’t have trouble saying no. And allow ourselves the right to do what we know in our hearts is right, even if people around us think it’s wrong.
This Tool for Tuesday is an anti-tool. It’s a warning. Everything we do out of guilt turns into a future resentment.
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