I told Lily the whole spiel about my faux-pas the other day and she said, “It’s the cycle of suffering. Part of our purpose in life is to see our way out of our suffering.”
She explained that part of our “stuff” is the way we react to things. We’re not really reacting to the actual incident but to the emotional trigger behind the incident.
Remember what she had with her boyfriend and the towels? It wasn’t the towels that drove her crazy. It was the feeling behind the towels, that she wasn’t worthy enough to have a boyfriend who’d buy her new towels.
Often times, we’re pre-upset about things. We often live our lives as a sequel to things that already happened. Then the incident becomes the trigger.
So what do we do?
Face it, trace it, erase it.
Face the feeling. Trace it to its source. What is behind what you’re feeling? What is the real pain? The deep, deep childhood hurt that needs healing? Then when you know that you can release it, erase it.
Our purpose in life is to bring ourselves out of that suffering. We can do that by awareness. From awareness, we can say, “Ahhh.” Then comes acceptance. Then peace.
Face it. Trace it. Erase it. Let it go once you know it’s an old hurt.
Don’t you love Kathy Bates? She’s one of my favorite actresses, proving that you don’t have to be a Botoxed boob to be good! Here’s her yearbook photo here.