Monthly Archives: August 2012

Little Steps Reap Big Rewards

My friend, Joelle, wants to start a fun rock-and-roll dance class for her friends. She wants to play great music and just dance with other women. She doesn’t want to go to a fancy health club where ­muscular 20-somethings are … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Q & A’s On Detachment

Question: How do you detach from someone you love? We can love someone but not suffer when they suffer. We can love them and not be miserable when they’re miserable or angry when they’re angry. If we are emotionally autonomous—as … Continue reading

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Native American Know-How, Part 2: Declare Your Emotional Autonomy

My Native American friend, Will, who talked about praying for ourselves before we pray for others here, gave me one other crucial tip about living our best chapter. Declare yourself an emotionally autonomous state. Declare your independence as if you … Continue reading

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Native-American Know-How: How To Take Care of Yourself First

I have a friend, Will, who’s a Native American. Want to know what the elders told him at a ceremony? “Pray for yourself first. After that, pray for others.” Pray for yourself first. Your first burst of karmic energy is … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Be Kind To Your Morning Self

Sometimes at night I’ll see the pots and pans in the dish rack and I’ll think, “I should put the dishes away now.” Then I say, “Nah, I’ll do it in the morning.” I leave the crap for my morning … Continue reading

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4 Surfer’s Tips To Live Your Best Chapter

My friend, Sam, the one who spoke about people living rent-free in your head here, went surfing the other day, and said that he was waiting and waiting for the perfect wave. Which never came. And then he took the … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Helen Gurley Brown on Reinvention

Helen Gurley Brown, who died on Monday, wrote in her autobiography, “Having It All” (1982), “I never liked the looks of the life that was programmed for me — ordinary, hillbilly and poor — and I repudiated it from the time … Continue reading

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True Story About A Dog: If He’s Happy, Then I’m Happy

So, we had to give away our dog, Happy. He’s a Hungarian Vizsla, a gorgeous dog, loyal and smart and easy-going, affectionate and true. And I wasn’t even a dog-lover before I met this dog seven years ago. But I … Continue reading

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Want Joy? Remember He’s the Sandpaper. You’re the Wood.

Everyone is in our lives for a reason. Someone annoying you today? Thank him. Thank him because your soul needs him to learn a spiritual lesson. You need the annoying driver in front of you to teach you patience. You … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Life Isn’t Fair. Period.

The Canadian women’s soccer team was leading 3-2 against the Americans in the semi-finals at the Olympics. Canadian goalkeeper Erin McLeod caught a ball and fell on the grass. She took 4 seconds to get up, then took another 10 … Continue reading

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