“Stop whining!” I heard a mother tell her daughter the other day.
Well, that’s a start. But a child is trying to say something and doesn’t know how to express herself. Telling her to stop whining might shut her up for a few minutes. But that doesn’t help the girl figure out how to get what she needs. So here’s the next simple tip:
Instead of saying, “Stop whining,” say: “Talk like a big girl.”
Mothers can then educate their children to speak appropriately. A Mom can get her kids to stop whining. Being a parent means guiding your child and giving her the communication skills she needs. It’s really simple. It really works. “Talk like a big boy” is just as effective, obviously.
And one more tip for making motherhood smoother…Children are good inside. They are. They are always good. Sometimes they mess up, however. It’s better for mothers to say, “What a big boy!” rather than “What a good boy!” Mothers and fathers want their children to mature, to be healthy and responsible. Encourage that. “You put your toys away so nicely. You’re such a big girl!”
How do we develop shame? By being told when we’re little and do something wrong that we’re bad. We are never bad. We are fundamentally good. We just mess up sometimes. And you want your kids to feel the same way.
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Remember: Don’t just tell a kid to stop doing something. Tell them what to do instead.
- Mother’s Day. Bah! Humbug! (momedysketch.com)