Tools for Tuesday: Terrific Tools for Your Toolbox

In a funk? Remember the story of the baby chick. (Read on.)

No matter what we face today, there’s always a solution. We might not get the answer immediately but it will come.

“Whatever God has blessed you with, take it with a grateful hand.” – Horace

Circumstances don’t make us who we are: they reveal who we can be.

Sometimes we blame other people, hoping they’ll change, but if we stop looking at them (what we think is the problem) and focus on ourselves, we will move toward what we want (the solution).

Speaking of which, we don’t have to fall into the pattern of explaining ourselves. Keep this wisdom to ourselves. We can make a decision and do what we need to do without apologizing, justifying or trying to explain our position.

Be happy with what we’ve done and not unhappy with what we haven’t done yet (How’s that for piling on all those negatives to make a positive?!?)

You grew up. Sometimes it was hard. And painful. You sometimes want to slip back into being a quivering lump in the corner. But now you know what you are doing and you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get out of the corner.

What am I doing with what I have? Instead of focusing on what we think others have, instead of bemoaning all we can’t do, we can try to do the best we can with the talents we’ve been given.

Today I can be grateful all I’ve been given. My life is probably not perfect and I probably haven’t achieved every goal I hoped I would have by now, but I can try to be at peace with myself, which is the most important task in my life.

I read a great story about a woman who had baby chicks. She thought she would help some of the baby chicks with their hatching so she peeled back some of the egg shell to get the chicks out. But she soon realized that the chicks she “helped” were the very ones that didn’t survive. They need to peck and pull and struggle: that was part of the lesson. We can’t forget that the struggle is part of the lesson.


About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is the author of several books, including The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker), shortlisted for a National Jewish Book Award. Her novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins) was published in 2015. She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review, Times of Israel, and is a reporter for Israel21C, and many other publications. She is author of Big Up Yourself: It's About Time You Like Being You and The Mom Who Took off On Her Motorcycle, a memoir of her 10,000-mile motorcycle trip to Alaska and back to New York. She lives in a small beach village in Western Galilee, Israel, with her husband and family. She is a member of the local hevra kadisha, the burial circle, and a Muslim-Jewish-Christian-Druze women's group in the nearby town of Akko. And, she likes snowboarding and climbing trees.
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7 Responses to Tools for Tuesday: Terrific Tools for Your Toolbox

  1. Jessica Millington says:

    I miss you!!!!!

    Sent from my iPhone


  2. MKimmel says:

    Hello Miss Diana,

    Very good tools for Tuesday!

    I wear a bracelet that reads No mud, no lotus. When people ask me its meaning, I say, it’s a more condensed and perhaps poetic rendition of Nietzsche’s “that which doesn’t kill me makes me strong.”

    As for your chick story, it made me think of some news I posted on FB this week. An elegantly designed study found interesting evidence in support of the “hygiene hypothesis,” which explains asthma, and perhaps other autoimmune conditions, as a result of our hyper-cleanliness. Re asthma, babies and children who grow up on farms in close contact with animals and dirt have a far lower rate of asthma than most kids today. They found a big difference in the asthma rates in Amish (kids play in nearby barns) vs Hutterite (animals are farmed collectively, in hangar-like barns far from families) communities, which both are descended from similar German stock.

    We head this Sat for 2 weeks in Lisbon, Madrid and Barcelona. It’s been an awful lot of planning and logistics but I see the bright sun at the end of the tunnel!

    Hugs & love Miss Melody

  3. The Baby Chicks story is a keeper! A terrific reminder for so many things.

    • dianabletter says:

      Good to hear from you, Marylin. I’m glad you liked the chick story. I keep going back to it a a reminder! Hope all is well with you.

  4. Great post, Diana. The baby chick story is so relatable to our lives. 🙂

    • dianabletter says:

      Hello Tracy, thanks for your comment. I love these simple stories that explain a lot. Hope all is well with you!

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