“The horror of that moment,” the King said, “I shall never, never forget.”
“You will, though,” said the Queen, “if you don’t make a memorandum of it.”
Lewis Carroll: Through the Looking Glass
It’s all too easy to press the rewind button and replay an argument from last week or even last year. It’s all too easy to rehearse over and over what you should have said or what you might say next.
But yesterday ended at midnight. It’s over. We have to use the healthy, forgiving, strong side of our brain to get the other side of the brain—the one that is full of fear, anger and hurt—to stop going over a bad moment. It doesn’t help us to keep reminding ourselves of that hurt. We don’t have to keep justifying how upset we might feel.
We can be like the river. We can let past hurts go. Today is our day to sparkle in the sun.
The best reason for not pressing that rewind button? Because we need to make the most out of today. Right now is all we have.