One Great Reason Why To Stop Pressing the Rewind Button.

“The horror of that moment,” the King said, “I shall never, never forget.”

“You will, though,” said the Queen, “if you don’t make a memorandum of it.”

Lewis Carroll: Through the Looking Glass

It’s all too easy to press the rewind button and replay an argument from last week or even last year. It’s all too easy to rehearse over and over what you should have said or what you might say next.

But yesterday ended at midnight. It’s over. We have to use the healthy, forgiving, strong side of our brain to get the other side of the brain—the one that is full of fear, anger and hurt—to stop going over a bad moment. It doesn’t help us to keep reminding ourselves of that hurt. We don’t have to keep justifying how upset we might feel.

We can be like the river. We can let past hurts go. Today is our day to sparkle in the sun.

The best reason for not pressing that rewind button? Because we need to make the most out of today. Right now is all we have.

About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is the author of several books including The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker), shortlisted for a National Jewish Book Award, a novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins), a memoir, The Mom Who Took of on her Motorcycle, and The Loving Yourself Book for Women: A Practical Guide to Boost Self-Esteem, Heal Your Inner Child, and Celebrate the Woman You Are, an Amazon top-seller in several categories, and The Loving Yourself Workbook for Girls. She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review and is currently a reporter for The Times of Israel. Diana and her husband have six children and an unofficially-adopted daughter from Ethiopia. They live in a small village on the Mediterranean Sea in northern Israel.

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