Tool for Tuesday: The Willingness To Accept Changes in Our Lives

Amalia, left, with Libby, right, as they hiked from the south to the north of Israel, Spring 2013

Amalia, left, with Libby, right, as they hiked from the south to the north of Israel, Spring 2013

Tomorrow is my daughter Amalia’s birthday. I was reading an old journal and found notes from this time, 1989, in which I wrote, “Fear of baby#3!!!” I already had two sons, aged 4 and 2. Yikes! (This was nothing – 17 months after Amalia came Libby and then I added 2 step-kids!) But I didn’t know that then.

Knowing we’re going to have to make a change is truly frightening—but sometimes, these changes push us in a direction we never thought possible. The changes force us to dig in and be our truest, strongest selves. We learn to rely on our friends. New people miraculously appear in our lives. We plug into the hidden, buzzing strength of the universe.

There are many days when we still have to be our own cheerleaders and push ourselves forward. There are some changes that are filled with sorrow – like the loss of a loved one. But time moves ahead and as my mother said right before she died, “All good things must come to an end.” We can take comfort in knowing that the bad things come to an end, too.

If I know a change is headed my way, I will trust that it’s right for me. I might greet it kicking and fighting. But things in our lives are going to change whether we want them to or not. I might not like these changes but I will try to open my heart and to be willing to try to accept those changes as part of my life’s journey. The changes might not bring us happiness but accepting them will bring a measure of peace in our hearts.

Tool for Tuesday: Changes in life are inevitable. Let me be willing to move from kicking and screaming to accepting those changes as part of my spiritual homework.

About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is the author of several books, including The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker), shortlisted for a National Jewish Book Award. Her novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins) was published in 2015. She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review, Times of Israel, and is a reporter for Israel21C, and many other publications. She is author of Big Up Yourself: It's About Time You Like Being You and The Mom Who Took off On Her Motorcycle, a memoir of her 10,000-mile motorcycle trip to Alaska and back to New York. She lives in a small beach village in Western Galilee, Israel, with her husband and family. She is a member of the local hevra kadisha, the burial circle, and a Muslim-Jewish-Christian-Druze women's group in the nearby town of Akko. And, she likes snowboarding and climbing trees.
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6 Responses to Tool for Tuesday: The Willingness To Accept Changes in Our Lives

  1. Sharon Blassberg Mann says:

    Thanks again inspirational thoughts.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I always feel like your writing these tool’s for my life. Making divorce=big BIG change. Selling your house-big big BIG change. Thank God your my sister and I get to carry your wisdoms in my pocket!

  3. juliabarrett says:

    How boring life would be if nothing changed. The very essence of the life of a human being is change. I’ve always felt that since God is eternal and unchanging, we are his means of change. His can’t change. His creation can. Thus we are God experiencing his own creation. It’s as if we are God putting on gloves (skin) and walking through life.
    Sorry… didn’t mean to sound so weird.

  4. You’re so right, Diana: when change chooses us, our best response can be to choose to accept it and make the most of the opportunity!

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