I got entangled in a family dispute the other day. One of those silly arguments that flare up and everyone gets worked up. I told myself not to jump in but I was unable to stop myself and suddenly I made a bigger mess of things.
Maybe it’s the holiday season. It seems there are more of those kind of arguments about this time of year. Some people are making things homey. Others are acting homicidal. So what’s my tool for Tuesday?
Think. Think before we speak.
Is what we are about to say…
Thoughtful? Helpful? Intelligent? Necessary? Kind?
I could have used this tool! Eventually, the crisis passed and everything is calm again but I wished I’d remembered that sooner. I forgot about it and I coulda, woulda, shoulda used it.
Today I want to remind myself that emotional control always trumps situational control. If I stay in control of myself, then the situation is bound to get easier. And I need to think before I speak.
Merry Christmas and Happy Chanukah to all my friends!
DIANA BLETTER 
“Emotional control trumps situational control.” I should have this tattood on my right hand. Then perhaps not only will it remind me of the wisdom of emotional control but it will prevent me from taking action when I should be still. As always, well done Diana. Thank you.
Amen.
You’re human. It happens. Love to all and happy Hanukkah
Rhonda Cohen
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Hello there, Rhonda, thank you for reminding me that we all make mistakes and can’t beat ourselves up over them. Happy Hanukah!
Thank you for the great reminder and helpful tool! Great timing too.
Happy Holidays to you and your family.
I really appreciate your tips and sharing of yourself. You make a positive difference in this world and I’m grateful to know you through your writing.
Here’s to 2015!
Thank you, Pam. I appreciate your writing me. Keep up your great cartoon work and creativity! Happy and healthy 2015!
So true! I wish I had read this yesterday. I am going to be quoting you- “Emotional control trumps situational control”. thanks for that!
Hi Ellen, you are welcome. I am glad that phrase struck a chord with you. I need to always remember it, too, which is why I wrote it down!
T H I N K. Excellent suggestion, Diana.
It will make me pause and remember the five words. And if I can’t remember, I’ll follow my grandmother’s and my mother’s constant reminders: If you can’t say something nice, stay busy doing other things and say nothing. 🙂
That’s true, Marylin, the best thing I’ve ever said was nothing at all! Happy holidays!
The adage “count to ten” is useful before speaking in anger.
Very true! I forgot the 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10 rule. Thanks for reminding me – and I’ll remember to do it with my mouth closed so a bee doesn’t fly in and sting me, reminding me over again!