A while ago, I had to go to court to take care of some family business. My friend, Kate, volunteered to go with me—under one condition.
“Ask me,” she said. “Ask me to go with you. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help.”
Being strong and independent doesn’t mean we have to do everything alone.
Have your own personal 911 list of people who you can turn to for help.
Do you hesitate before reaching out to ask someone to help you? Do you think you “should” be able to do it alone?
Help me. Those two words don’t always come from weakness but from strength.
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About dianabletter
Diana Bletter is the author of several books including The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker), shortlisted for a National Jewish Book Award, a novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins), a memoir, The Mom Who Took of on her Motorcycle, and The Loving Yourself Book for Women: A Practical Guide to Boost Self-Esteem, Heal Your Inner Child, and Celebrate the Woman You Are, an Amazon top-seller in several categories, and The Loving Yourself Workbook for Girls.
She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review and is currently a reporter for The Times of Israel.
Diana and her husband have six children and an unofficially-adopted daughter from Ethiopia. They live in a small village on the Mediterranean Sea in northern Israel.
DIANA BLETTER 
Yep, that’s me. Independent to the extreme. I have to stop myself from saying ‘No thanks’, and changing it to ‘Er, well that would be good, thanks’ all the time. It took me a long time to realise when we accept help we are ‘giving’ to the other person. They feel valued, appreciated and that they matter. I’m still a complete novice at this though! Excellent reminder. 🙂
Thanks, I agree – it’s so hard to ask for help!