Sometimes Being Called Selfish Is A Compliment

If you grew up thinking you always had to take care of everyone else, and you’re finally, finally, finally, trying to take care of yourself, and the very first time you say no because you don’t want to put someone else’s needs above your own, and they call you selfish, take it as a compliment.

Most of us are not selfish. Most of us are giving, concerned, sensitive and helpful. But sometimes we need to be giving, concerned sensitive and helpful to ourselves first, even if it means upsetting others.

If we’re being called selfish today, it just might mean we’re doing the right thing. Be less you to be more you: try something new today.

About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is the author of The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker) was nominated for a National Jewish Book Award. Her novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins) was published in 2015. She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review, Times of Israel, The Jerusalem Post, and many other publications. Her first book, and author of Big Up Yourself: It's About Time You Like Being You and The Mom Who Took off On Her Motorcycle. She lives in Western Galilee, Israel, with her husband and family.
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1 Response to Sometimes Being Called Selfish Is A Compliment

  1. As my children have grown older (16, 21) I am finally learning that I should be a bit more selfish and less at the ready to help them. Better for all of us!

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