My friend Carol always says, “We have to fill our own well.”

That is just like the link on Gretchen Rubin‘s Happiness Project blog. She wrote that we need to be emotionally self-sufficient to get closer to other people.

If we look to our friends, spouses, children, and even our children to fill our empty spaces, then all our relationships go awry. Then we become codependent on others and want them to do the inside work that we have to do ourselves.

To make this our best chapter, we need to fill our own wells. That means taking care of ourselves emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically each day.