Tool For Tuesday: You Can Pick Your Friends and You Can Pick Your…Word. (And I Did.)

So, when we last met, we were rummaging around our brain cells and heart veins and soul spaces for that word of the year. My friend, Anne, wrote, “My best word forever and ever is love. Such an easy one to feel but difficult to describe. I recently read a meaningful definition of love that Ian McEwan used in “Sweet Tooth.” Love does not stand alone, nor can it, ‘but trails like a blazing comet, bringing with it other shining goods – forgiveness, compassion, kindness, tolerance, fairness, and friendship, all bound to the heart of what love is’.”

Thank you, Anne, for pointing that out. Beautiful.

The big debate was between awareness and acceptance, two solid A-words, but the word presence came to me. As my friend, Mary Eldred, said in my last post, there are many variations to the word and many themes for me to focus on. (Which is the point, right? Focusing on something positive.)

Your presence is requested. I like that for an invitation for myself.

When I am with someone, I want to be fully present. I want this year to be one of invisible presents to others and to myself. No multi-tasking when I can focus on being present.

So, presence, presents, suiting up and showing up and finally: tapping that unsuspected presence within.

The idea also came to me via my friend, Yosi Mor, who wrote about being aware of the present moment –when it comes to decision — doing what can be done now. It is all we have.

What do you think? What word are you choosing for yourself? How can it help you write your best chapter? Write and let me know.

About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is the author of several books, including The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker), shortlisted for a National Jewish Book Award. Her novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins) was published in 2015. She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review, Times of Israel, and is a reporter for Israel21C, and many other publications. She is author of Big Up Yourself: It's About Time You Like Being You and The Mom Who Took off On Her Motorcycle, a memoir of her 10,000-mile motorcycle trip to Alaska and back to New York. She lives in a small beach village in Western Galilee, Israel, with her husband and family. She is a member of the local hevra kadisha, the burial circle, and a Muslim-Jewish-Christian-Druze women's group in the nearby town of Akko. And, she likes snowboarding and climbing trees.
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4 Responses to Tool For Tuesday: You Can Pick Your Friends and You Can Pick Your…Word. (And I Did.)

  1. Anonymous says:

    Excellent choice!

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