Tool For Tuesday: Pick Your Word for 2014

My unofficially adopted daughter Degetu's new baby boy, Omer.

My unofficially adopted daughter Degetu’s new baby boy, Omer.

My word for 2014 (drum roll, please) is DIRECTION.

Taking direction, not giving direction to anyone but myself. Knowing my direction and taking the steps necessary to reach my destination.

It’s important to have direction. To know where we’re going. Hey, you know why Moses led the Jews wandering around the desert for 40 years? Because he didn’t want to ask for directions.

But I’ve learned I can ask for help and directions. I can admit I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t have to isolate out of shame. I can welcome myself to the human race.

I can have what is called Good Orderly Direction (doesn’t take much to guess what the acronym spells).

If you are faced with a troubling crisis, health issue, critical life changes…if you’re unsure and frightened, then pick a word to anchor you. Something to focus on when you’re jittery and frazzled inside.

Here are some words that have been chosen by friends:

My friend, Melody: KINDNESS. “Kindness to others, and to myself. Kindness as my religion, as the Dalai Lamai says. Kindness as a gateway to humility (“better to be kind than right” is a saying I don’t always remember but want to).

Kindness as one of the acid tests before speaking: Is it true? Kind? Necessary?

Kindness to remember that everyone is struggling, and also that everyone carries a spark of the divine. If you look into their eyes, you’ll see it.

Other friends have chosen: POWERFUL, JOY and ACCEPTANCE.

My word for 2013 was PRESENCE.

Being aware of presence of mind, the presents in our presence. There were times when I was with people and found myself wandering and that was when I reminded myself to stay present. To be here now.

Send in your words and your reasons and I’ll print them. Learning how to make this our best chapter means finding that one word to keep us centered when we go off-direction.

Tool For Tuesday: Pick your word, something to focus on when you’re lost in the storm.

About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is the author of several books, including The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker), shortlisted for a National Jewish Book Award. Her novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins) was published in 2015. She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review, Times of Israel, and is a reporter for Israel21C, and many other publications. She is author of Big Up Yourself: It's About Time You Like Being You and The Mom Who Took off On Her Motorcycle, a memoir of her 10,000-mile motorcycle trip to Alaska and back to New York. She lives in a small beach village in Western Galilee, Israel, with her husband and family. She is a member of the local hevra kadisha, the burial circle, and a Muslim-Jewish-Christian-Druze women's group in the nearby town of Akko. And, she likes snowboarding and climbing trees.
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9 Responses to Tool For Tuesday: Pick Your Word for 2014

  1. juliabarrett says:

    What a precious picture! He’s so beautiful! Of course Moses led us through the desert for 40 years. Obviously related to my husband. Terrible sense of direction and stubborn as hell. My word may be a two-parter – Best Practices. Just because I like the concept and the phrase makes me smile.

  2. Diana, your “direction” word for 2014 is a powerful one. I’ll choose “joyful” because I need to remain joyful no matter what curve life throughs my way. Like this past week when my plans to write went by the wayside due to a nasty cold. As a side note, the reason the Israelities weren’t allowed to enter the promised land was because they grumbled and complained to God. Oh yes, you might want to check out, she has a great motivatiinal blog where she talks about choosing a word for 2014. And you look so happy hugging your new grandbaby! 🙂 Enjoy Omer! 🙂

    • P.S. Throughs my way, should have read “throws” my way. My head is all stuffed up and I can’t spell correctly today. LOL

      • dianabletter says:

        That is funny about throughs versus throws. I got it. Yes, the Israelites wanted to go back to slavery because it was familiar to them. Sometimes we choose misery for the same reason – it’s comforting and a habit. I like your word, joyful!

  3. Beautiful picture of you with Omer. Babies give us a new sense of direction, though sometimes it’s in circles.

  4. Sharon Blassberg Mann says:

    I have been trying to choose my word. I know its a few weeks late but i have decided on -OPEN. In 2014 I want to remind myself to be OPEN to: new experiences, new people, new challenges and new ways of viewing things that happen in life.

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