I never thought I’d be quoting Mike Tyson. But here’s real wisdom coming from Iron Mike, and proof that we can learn something from everyone. Whoever crosses our path can be our teacher:
“We all feel so sorry for ourselves, but we shouldn’t. We have to fight that feeling and know that life is hard but it’s fair. People say life is not fair, but I believe that it is fair—it’s just so damn hard.” (From an interview by Sean Woods in Men’s Journal.)
Remember that self-pity is like rocking in a chair and expecting to go somewhere. It robs us of energy. It pulls us down. There is always something we can do to make our day better. We can go visit someone who has it worse. We can listen to a beautiful song. We can call someone we haven’t heard from in a while. We can take a walk and look for something new. We can read something uplifting and inspiring.
Life is hard. It is. But we have to remind ourselves that our feelings come and go. Our feelings are just feelings, they’re not facts. And they won’t kill us. They’ll pass and we’ll start to feel good again.
Transformation takes place when we accept the realities in our lives and then take small steps to make each day as good as it can be.