Turning the Negative Into the Positive

 

OK, I know that’s easier said than done…But how do we make a lousy situation a little better?

I was sharing this concept with my friend, Emma, this morning. She was having a hard time dealing with her boss, Bob, because he is, in a word, incompetent and she ends up picking up the pieces and doing most of the work. I said that if she found a way to refer to him differently then maybe she could think about him differently. And thinking about a problem in a new way is getting closer to solve it.

So she decided to call him Bob…Blob. As soon as she started ranting about him as Blob, it was far funnier. We got on a roll. Annoying neighbors called Russell became the Fuss-ell Family because they complain about everything. A former boyfriend whose last name was Radecki was transformed into…you got it, Badecki.

I know it sounds simplistic and silly but it follows the maxim, “If we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” This is one step at least toward accepting things we can’t change – and that’s half the battle!

Did you try this? Did it help you deal with a problem situation?

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About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is the author of several books including The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker), shortlisted for a National Jewish Book Award, a novel, A Remarkable Kindness, (HarperCollins), a memoir, The Mom Who Took of on her Motorcycle, and The Loving Yourself Book for Women: A Practical Guide to Boost Self-Esteem, Heal Your Inner Child, and Celebrate the Woman You Are, an Amazon top-seller in several categories, and The Loving Yourself Workbook for Girls. She is the First Prize Winner of Moment Magazine's 2019 Fiction Contest. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, Glamour, The Forward, The North American Review and is currently a reporter for The Times of Israel. Diana and her husband have six children and an unofficially-adopted daughter from Ethiopia. They live in a small village on the Mediterranean Sea in northern Israel.
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1 Response to Turning the Negative Into the Positive

  1. amalia's avatar amalia says:

    Love it.

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