“Oh I am not going to apologize to him,” my friend Joelle (I wrote about her here) said. “He was wrong. He acted rude. He insulted me.”
And yet—it’s three weeks later and almost every day Joelle tells me the same story. According to her version of events, he was wrong. And Joelle refuses to be the one to make the first move.
“If I go talk to him, then it’s like I’m saying he’s right,” she told me. “He should be the one to apologize to me.”
“Do you want to be right—or do you want to be happy?”
Really, does it make a difference who is the first to try to make amends? Our pride often gets in the way. And our pride can slip into self-righteousness.
It is hard to be the one to reach out first. Especially if we know we’ve been seriously wronged. But when we hold onto blaming others—then they’re living rent-free in our heads. We can find another way to fill ourselves up.
What’s more important to you: being right or being happy?
Tool For Tuesday: Maybe it’s time to reach out to someone we’ve been putting down.