Tag Archives: United States

Change From The Inside Out.

I remember how hopeful I was at the start of the so-called Arab Spring. Ah, naïve me. I thought there would be a push forward but instead it’s a step back. But moving from the political into the personal, here’s … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Q & A’s On Detachment

Question: How do you detach from someone you love? We can love someone but not suffer when they suffer. We can love them and not be miserable when they’re miserable or angry when they’re angry. If we are emotionally autonomous—as … Continue reading

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Native American Know-How, Part 2: Declare Your Emotional Autonomy

My Native American friend, Will, who talked about praying for ourselves before we pray for others here, gave me one other crucial tip about living our best chapter. Declare yourself an emotionally autonomous state. Declare your independence as if you … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Life Isn’t Fair. Period.

The Canadian women’s soccer team was leading 3-2 against the Americans in the semi-finals at the Olympics. Canadian goalkeeper Erin McLeod caught a ball and fell on the grass. She took 4 seconds to get up, then took another 10 … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: It’s Your Own Fault

Joelle’s daughter is 23 and she’s been in therapy for the past year, blaming Joelle for everything from her big feet to her bad posture, her unhappiness and her lackluster love life. Joelle’s been footing (pardon the pun) the bill … Continue reading

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Rich Poor Guy, Poor Rich Guy, Part 2

Danielle LaPorte wrote in her blog today, “There is no excuse for going hungry.  We are here to feast.” Follow-up for yesterday’s blog: Are you a rich poor guy or a poor rich guy? We don’t have to deprive ourselves … Continue reading

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Are you a Rich Poor Guy or a Poor Rich Guy?

There are two kinds: the rich poor guy and the poor rich guy. Which are you? Some rich people act like they’re poor. One guy I know jams on the brakes and pulls his car over to pick up a … Continue reading

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Who Gave You Courage to Begin Your Best Chapter?

In a moving essay in Sunday’s New York Times, Jane Mendolsohn wrote that Amelia Earhart “inspired me to face the unknown, the empty sky, the blank page….She inspired me to begin my life.” Before I took off on my motorcycle … Continue reading

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All We Can Do Is Go Around Telling The Truth

Literary biographer Virginia Spencer Carr died today. She’s author of one of my favorite biographies, The Lonely Hunter, about Carson McCullers, who was one of my favorite writers. Carr’s book about McCullers was so compassionate and empathetic that McCullers’ widowed … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Make Sure Your Actions Match Your Words

Did you ever go out with someone who promised you roses every Friday, trips to Tahiti and you got bupkis instead? (Bupkis, FYI, is Yiddish for goat droppings and means nothing, zip, absolutely nada.) If we want people to take … Continue reading

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