Category Archives: Tool For Tuesday

Tool For Tuesday: Surprising News. Want More? Give More Away.

Check out this photo. My husband, Jonny, and I were at the wedding of our unofficially adopted daughter, Degetu Mamo, three years ago. And last month, she gave birth to her second child, Omer, an entirely cute boy. Her first … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: “I Can’t Help It,” You Say. Oh, But You Can. One Self-Help Tip That Works. Guaranteed.

Sometimes our responsibilities overwhelm us. Sometimes we just don’t think we can’t make it through another second of our life as it is. Sometimes we don’t think we can ride or move or walk another step, another rotation of the … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: In A Relationship, Do I Want to Be Right Or Do I Want To Be Happy?

  “Oh I am not going to apologize to him,” my friend Joelle (I wrote about her here) said. “He was wrong. He acted rude. He insulted me.” And yet—it’s three weeks later and almost every day Joelle tells me … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Four Quick Ways to Eliminate Envy.

Envy is a hostile form of self-pity. I didn’t write that but I wish I did. Oops! I just committed my first act of envy and I was only on the second sentence of this blog. Envy is a hostile … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: George Eliot’s Guide To Happiness.

Last Tuesday I had no tool to offer you—I had no tool to offer myself. It was just one of those lousy days that I had to sit out. Mama said there’d be days like this. Actually, my mother rarely … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: What Is NOT On Your To Do List?

I got a comment from a student at UCLA who thanked me for my blog post, “If You Feel Like S—t, You’re Being Fertilized to Grow.” She said the posts help her and other students. That makes me grateful. I’m … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: You’re Only as Sick as the Secrets You Keep.

  Today–when searching for a tool for Tuesday–I read a quote from Charles F. Kettering, “A problem well-stated is a problem half-solved.” A problem can be like a secret, something we’re ashamed to share. But we need to remind ourselves … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Get An Editor.

Today’s post is the first in a short series about self-publishing’s do’s and don’ts. But why is getting an editor also important for those who aren’t considering self-publishing? Because we can always use with an editor to edit what comes … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Drop the Savior Behavior.

  My friend, Lily, whom I’ve written about here, told me that she had arrived at a new relationship with her new boyfriend on a white horse. She was going to rescue him and clean up his life. And at the … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Drop the Because.

Can I go to the movies, Mom? No, because it costs a lot of money with the popcorn. I won’t buy popcorn. But the soda’s also expensive. I won’t buy soda. The tickets cost a lot. I have my own … Continue reading

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