Category Archives: Tool For Tuesday

Tool For Tuesday: Everything We Do Out of Guilt Turns Into a Future Resentment.

We’re students of life. We sometimes do things we don’t want to do because we want to be nice or because we’re afraid of hurting someone’s feelings or because we have a high tolerance for emotional pain and think, “Oh, … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Rude Awakening? Use It as a Spiritual Awakening.

Sometimes we need a rude awakening to reach a spiritual awakening. My friend, Lily, was called out for being critical of—well, just about everything. The restaurant’s menu was not extensive enough. Or too “all over the place like a Greek … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Mark Your Boundaries.

You are you and they are they. Sometimes, we don’t know where we end and the people we love begin. We want to help people but sometimes we rob them of the failures that they need in order to grow … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Finding Happiness Even When Those You Love Are Stuck.

I got an email from an acquaintance who wrote, “I am struggling with my relationship with my mother and I’ve been starting to suspect it might be affecting my relationships with others too…My mother is an alcoholic; I no longer … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Don’t Jump Ahead. Just Do Today

If we’re going through a difficult time right now, we can remind ourselves that we only have to do this one day. We don’t have to—we can’t—tackle all our life’s challenges right now. We only have today to deal with. … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Want Joy? Practice These 11 Really, Incredibly Simple Things Every Day

Ah-hah, voila, presto! It really is easier than we think to make this day a great page in our best chapter of life. 1. We can start our day with Please. Please let this day be a good one. 2. … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Pick Your Word for 2014

My word for 2014 (drum roll, please) is DIRECTION. Taking direction, not giving direction to anyone but myself. Knowing my direction and taking the steps necessary to reach my destination. It’s important to have direction. To know where we’re going. Hey, … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: 5 Tips on Building Self-Esteem

My friend, Erika–the one who asked me, “How do you stop the pain of being alive?” — asked me another question, “How do you build self-esteem?” “Well, what do you feel like?” “Like I’m 6 years old.” “And what do you … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: The Willingness To Accept Changes in Our Lives

Tomorrow is my daughter Amalia’s birthday. I was reading an old journal and found notes from this time, 1989, in which I wrote, “Fear of baby#3!!!” I already had two sons, aged 4 and 2. Yikes! (This was nothing – … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: When Does Doing Good Go Bad?

Last week’s Tool For Tuesday was about helping others. But there’s a flip side. When does helping turn into enabling? When does saying yes too often turn into people-pleasing? And when you say yes, is it only because you’re scared … Continue reading

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