Category Archives: Transformation

Snowboarder Jamie Anderson: Life in 5 Words

“It’s all about the moment.” That’s Jamie Anderson after winning the gold in slopestyle at the Sochi Olympics on Sunday. That’s all we have. The Moment. We can win the gold medal in our own lives if we focus on … Continue reading

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Mike Tyson: Life Is Hard But It’s Fair.

  I never thought I’d be quoting Mike Tyson. But here’s real wisdom coming from Iron Mike, and proof that we can learn something from everyone. Whoever crosses our path can be our teacher: “We all feel so sorry for … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Finding Happiness Even When Those You Love Are Stuck.

I got an email from an acquaintance who wrote, “I am struggling with my relationship with my mother and I’ve been starting to suspect it might be affecting my relationships with others too…My mother is an alcoholic; I no longer … Continue reading

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Are Ya Doing Your Life’s Homework Assignments?

I want to share a story a friend told me. She’s been down in the dumps for a while and on New Year’s Eve, she held an 8-month-old baby born to a drug-addicted woman. My friend wrote me, “I held … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: 5 Tips on Building Self-Esteem

My friend, Erika–the one who asked me, “How do you stop the pain of being alive?” — asked me another question, “How do you build self-esteem?” “Well, what do you feel like?” “Like I’m 6 years old.” “And what do you … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: The Willingness To Accept Changes in Our Lives

Tomorrow is my daughter Amalia’s birthday. I was reading an old journal and found notes from this time, 1989, in which I wrote, “Fear of baby#3!!!” I already had two sons, aged 4 and 2. Yikes! (This was nothing – … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: When Does Doing Good Go Bad?

Last week’s Tool For Tuesday was about helping others. But there’s a flip side. When does helping turn into enabling? When does saying yes too often turn into people-pleasing? And when you say yes, is it only because you’re scared … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Get A Habit.

No, I’m not talking about smoking or waiting for the tick-tick-tick toward 5 o’clock so you can pour yourself a drink. From the Latin, habire: to have. Something that gets so regular it becomes instinctive and you can save time … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: George Eliot’s Guide To Happiness.

Last Tuesday I had no tool to offer you—I had no tool to offer myself. It was just one of those lousy days that I had to sit out. Mama said there’d be days like this. Actually, my mother rarely … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: What Is NOT On Your To Do List?

I got a comment from a student at UCLA who thanked me for my blog post, “If You Feel Like S—t, You’re Being Fertilized to Grow.” She said the posts help her and other students. That makes me grateful. I’m … Continue reading

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