Category Archives: Relationships

18 New Year’s Resolutions Ending With: Live The New Year One New Day at a Time.

What’s your word for 2015? Mine is joy. I plan to seek joy each day. We think our time on the planet is limitless but there are only a certain number of hours left. Which is why I spent one … Continue reading

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New Twist on the Old Serenity Prayer.

Your toughest experience can be your best lesson. I learned this when my husband, Jonny, and I combined our six children—three boys and three girls all under the age of eleven—into one blended family. I had the hardest time with … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: What Are You Waiting For?

  Suppose you are on your death bed. What’s left to say? I’d like to think I’ll say only the most meaningful things when the time is running out. I’d bring up all the love that is welling in my … Continue reading

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Who’s Your Safe Room?

My friend Joelle called me to complain about her boyfriend’s sister the other day. Joelle used to complain about Connie to her boyfriend but that only caused arguments between them. Now she’s learned. What do you accomplish when you diss … Continue reading

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Three Tremendous Tips For Mothers (And Not Just On Mother’s Day)

In honor of Mother’s Day, I’m running a mini-series featuring useful tips for mothers. Nobody gave me an instruction manual when I brought my first child home from the hospital. My husband had already gone back to work, my mother … Continue reading

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Do Women Speak A Different Language?

My older son’s friend, Jake, who’s 29, and a good guy was talking about what he’s still learning: “When a woman says yes but really means no; when she says no but really means yes; and when, when…does she say … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday. Nobody Can Read Your Mind. Ask For Help.

You can’t do it all yourself. Some of the best writers in the world had the best editors. (I’m thinking of Ernest Hemingway and F. Scott Fitzgerald and Thomas Wolfe who worked with Maxwell Perkins.) Writers can’t find where they … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Don’t Dance the Either/Or Tango

Either I love him or I hate him…either I am angry at him or I adore him… We don’t have to do that either/or tango. We can love someone and still be angry at them–even though it’s tough. When Wilbur the … Continue reading

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Knowledge Means Unlearning

In her poweful book, The Handmaid’s Tale, Margaret Atwood talks about a future world and the reeducation of women—forcing them to become stupider, depriving them of the right to read, study, work and learn. That’s a frightening prospect because education … Continue reading

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The Funny Thing About Surviving in the Alaskan Wilderness

I watched a movie about Heimo and Edna Korth, a couple living near the Arctic Circle in the Alaska wilderness. The link is at the end of the blog so you can hit it afterwards. The focus was on Heimo’s … Continue reading

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