Category Archives: Tool For Tuesday

Tool For Tuesday: On Fear, And Forgetting Everything’s All Right

Now a word from our sponsor about fear. What’s fear? Forgetting Everything’s All Right. Facing Everything And Recovering. F—K Everything And Run. I love finding new acronyms. Let’s see. Fully Embracing All Reality. (That was off the top of my … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Be a Poet. Give Yourself Poetic License.

In school you learn how to write: subject, verb, ending, period. The girl went to school. But if you are a poet, you’re given license to mess things up a bit. To school went the girl. Give yourself permission to … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Don’t Force A Solution. The Answer Will Come To You.

Until we are ready to know something or see something, the mystery will stay a mystery. Unless we are absolutely ready to make a change, we’ll  stay stuck in the question, “Should I? Shouldn’t I?” So how do we get … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: The Sandwich. Huh?

My friend, Joelle, was off to give her boyfriend “a piece of her mind.” Try the sandwich, I suggested. Huh? The sandwich approach is: two compliments with a suggestion in the middle. That seems to work best. Give a compliment, … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Worst Things First.

Gold medal Olympian swimmer John Naber said, “Do you know the difference between discipline and responsibility? “Responsibility means keeping the promises you make to others.  Discipline means keeping the promises you make to yourself.” So here (thank you to Melody … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: How Do You Ask For What You Want?

My friend Joelle is about to move to a new apartment. She asked me, “What are good strategies to help me get the most help from Shawn during my move?” Shawn is her off-and-on boyfriend. Right away, can’t you smell … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Tips for How to Make Up and Move On

I wrote, “If you’re burning, you’re learning,” in my last post. You can look at it here. (But, “basically speaking,” as my Scottish friend always says, what I wrote was this: We burn inside when we are aware that we … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Act As If.

I know the goal is honesty here, not an Academy Award. But this is a great tool. It’s a skill. If we act as if…. then the feelings catch up. After the death of her father, Joelle said she could … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: If You Spot It, You Got It.

My friend Lily had a presentation to prepare for at a major business conference. A colleague of hers—we’ll call her Sandra—said, “I hope your presentation isn’t going to be boring and full of details.” Lily said defensively, “It isn’t!” But … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Don’t Make Nothing From Something. Make Something From Nothing.

“The world is like a book that can be read in either direction,” wrote Rabbi Pinchas of Koritz. “There is the power of creation, making something out of nothing. And then there is the power of destruction, making nothing out … Continue reading

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