Category Archives: Tool For Tuesday

Tool For Tuesday: Get Better or Get Bitter.

Less than two years before my friend—I’ll call her Tracy—died, she found out that her husband was cheating on her. She was furious, obviously. He moved out. A while later, we met for lunch. I told her I was amazed at … Continue reading

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Tool for Tuesday: Name It. Frame It. Tame It.

So, my friend Janet is on a safari in the Serengeti when I thought about my Tool for Tuesday. I was pondering the way I replay certain themes in my head—like a song from the radio you can’t stop humming. … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: You Can Pick Your Friends and You Can Pick Your…Word. (And I Did.)

So, when we last met, we were rummaging around our brain cells and heart veins and soul spaces for that word of the year. My friend, Anne, wrote, “My best word forever and ever is love. Such an easy one … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Open That Door. Use Your Eyes.

“Your eyes are the mirror of the soul.” That’s a Yiddish proverb. (I love Yiddish proverbs; for more, see here.) That’s why when you look people in the eye you can make a serious, simmering, solid connection. You can reveal everything … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Find The Line

My friend Lily (I’ve written about her here) reminded me that during stressful holiday times, it’s important to find the line. Set your boundary. Where does your lawn end? Where does someone else’s territory begin? Don’t trespass into someone else’s … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Pray. Even If You’re Not Sure Why.

I’m posting today the blog I wrote for The Huffington Post here, called “Why Pray?” Because of my prayers, the recent conflict in Gaza suddenly stopped. Or so I’d like to believe. I was standing on my head outside my … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday. Think Football. Block That Resentment.

OK, we all have someone we love to resent. Our Billboard Top 10 List. Our secret someone. Sometimes it’s almost like a love affair, all that time we waste being angry, hurt, seething at that special someone. We justify it, … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Let The Show Begin

“The show doesn’t go on because it’s ready; it goes on because it’s 11:30,” said Lorne Michaels, creator of “Saturday Night Live.” I was thinking about that as I struggled to make the final touches on The Mom Who Took … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: If You Feel Like S**t, You’re Being Fertilized To Grow

For my older daughter Amalia’s 19th birthday, my 18-year-old younger daughter Libby bought her a compost shed. What better celebration for the earth than a girl getting an ugly black plastic box to recycle garbage rather a coupon for the … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Plan A, Plan B and Plan T

The lights are on in Glen Cove, yay! A nor’easter is expected tomorrow, boo! After Hurricane Sandy, another storm is the last thing needed. But the Tool for Tuesday is this: have a plan A, a plan B (for back-up) … Continue reading

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