Tag Archives: relationships

Who’s Your Safe Room?

My friend Joelle called me to complain about her boyfriend’s sister the other day. Joelle used to complain about Connie to her boyfriend but that only caused arguments between them. Now she’s learned. What do you accomplish when you diss … Continue reading

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Mother’s Day: Get Your Kids Under Control and Get Your Life Back. More Super Easy Tips

I know, sometimes you feel like you are down on your knees…And not just figuratively. Here are some more tools in honor of Mother’s Day to get your kids under control and get your life back. 1. Don’t make threats … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: If You Lose It, You Lose It.

I’m always ready to learn, although I do not always like being taught. — Winston Churchill I had a talk with my stepdaughter, Libi, who has a 3-year-old and a 6-month-old. She asked, “How did you do it with so … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: You Can’t Detach From Someone Whose Approval You Need

You can’t detach from someone whose approval you need. You can’t grow up and be an authentic adult, not tied into someone else, if you keep seeking their approval. I’ve been a perfectionist, people-pleaser, goody-goody, put-my-needs-at-the-back-of-the-list person who craved—really craved—people’s … Continue reading

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Psst…You Might Be the Problem.

Really? Moi? A friend called me the other day wanting to vent about her son. Yeah, he’s a rotten egg right now only because he’s 26, lost his job (again), lost his telephone (again), and is behind on the rent … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Get Better or Get Bitter.

Less than two years before my friend—I’ll call her Tracy—died, she found out that her husband was cheating on her. She was furious, obviously. He moved out. A while later, we met for lunch. I told her I was amazed at … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Don’t Dance the Either/Or Tango

Either I love him or I hate him…either I am angry at him or I adore him… We don’t have to do that either/or tango. We can love someone and still be angry at them–even though it’s tough. When Wilbur the … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: M.Y.M.

Are you doing unto others so that they will do unto you? My friend Joelle said that she asks people in her family, “Do you want a cup of coffee? A glass of water?” she’s thinking, “I wish someone would … Continue reading

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Are You Being Helpful–Or Are You Trying To Force Solutions?

My friend, Lily, who has been featured in several blogs here and here really wants her boyfriend to sell his house so they can move in together. She is a stylist in Manhattan, an artist and a connoisseur of sales … Continue reading

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Want Joy? Remember He’s the Sandpaper. You’re the Wood.

Everyone is in our lives for a reason. Someone annoying you today? Thank him. Thank him because your soul needs him to learn a spiritual lesson. You need the annoying driver in front of you to teach you patience. You … Continue reading

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