Category Archives: Self-care

Tool for Tuesday: Q & A’s On Detachment

Question: How do you detach from someone you love? We can love someone but not suffer when they suffer. We can love them and not be miserable when they’re miserable or angry when they’re angry. If we are emotionally autonomous—as … Continue reading

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Native American Know-How, Part 2: Declare Your Emotional Autonomy

My Native American friend, Will, who talked about praying for ourselves before we pray for others here, gave me one other crucial tip about living our best chapter. Declare yourself an emotionally autonomous state. Declare your independence as if you … Continue reading

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Native-American Know-How: How To Take Care of Yourself First

I have a friend, Will, who’s a Native American. Want to know what the elders told him at a ceremony? “Pray for yourself first. After that, pray for others.” Pray for yourself first. Your first burst of karmic energy is … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: Be Kind To Your Morning Self

Sometimes at night I’ll see the pots and pans in the dish rack and I’ll think, “I should put the dishes away now.” Then I say, “Nah, I’ll do it in the morning.” I leave the crap for my morning … Continue reading

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7 Sure Ways to Change the World Over the Weekend

  Yes, there are 7 sure ways to change the world over the weekend. Not talking about the big world, I’m talking about your world. The world around you, which is the only world we have. When you open your … Continue reading

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The 6 – 1 People You Need In Your Corner

Postcard of CornellUniversityCheerleader1906 Cheerleading (Photo credit: Wikipedia) 6 – 1   Great blog post in Forbes on the 6 People you need in your corner to accomplish your goals. Jessica Hagy said they were: The Instigater, the Cheerleader, the Taskmasker, … Continue reading

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The Apple Can Fall Far From The Tree

Yesterday I wrote my Tool for Tuesday: It’s Your Own Fault. That post reminds us all that blame keeps us wallowing in the past. It is impossible to move forward when we keep replaying the lament about what we didn’t get … Continue reading

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Tool For Tuesday: It’s Your Own Fault

Joelle’s daughter is 23 and she’s been in therapy for the past year, blaming Joelle for everything from her big feet to her bad posture, her unhappiness and her lackluster love life. Joelle’s been footing (pardon the pun) the bill … Continue reading

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Sitting Through the Discomfort

July 23, 2012 Joelle’s turn today. You remember her–she always jokes that she has a bad case of “Tongue Fu.” (I wrote about that here.) She went out for her mother’s birthday the other night. A loooonnnng dinner at a … Continue reading

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Are you a Rich Poor Guy or a Poor Rich Guy?

There are two kinds: the rich poor guy and the poor rich guy. Which are you? Some rich people act like they’re poor. One guy I know jams on the brakes and pulls his car over to pick up a … Continue reading

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